TW: Transmisogynistic slurs.
I got a newsflash for you. If you are not a trans woman, the word tr*nny is not yours. I can hear the whining now. But, tr*nny has been used against me! It’s a slur against all trans* people! Let me break it down for you. The simple answer is so? Doesn’t matter. Straight people call each other faggot all the time. I guess if a straight person gets called a fag, they can use and reclaim that word, huh? The answer is no, they can’t. The same goes for the word tr*nny.
I used to think the same way. I am a non-binary trans guy. People have called me a tr*nny (especially a trend tr*nny) numerous times. I was put in my place by some rather angry women when I argued for my use of the word. However, I have come to my senses. Just look at how the word is used. The most common and prominent usage is in porn; porn that features trans women. When people think of the word, they do not conjure all forms of trans* people. They conjure images of trans women, especially non-passing trans women. The punch line of most tr*nny jokes? Trans women. Generally how they are really men, dudes in dresses, and not actually women (which we know is a bunch of bull).
This leads to the other community who thinks they can reclaim the word; drag queens. Now, historically, the word tr*nny comes from the word transvestite. This outdated term used to include any CAMAB individual who cross-dressed, thus it used to include drag queens and trans women. Pre-Stonewall, the drag and trans* communities were pretty intermeshed since it was one of the few places trans women were relatively accepted. However, times and words changed. The trans* community branded off as it gained its own somewhat acceptance and the word tr*nny followed evolution. Just as the word faggot now is a derogatory word towards gay people, the word tr*nny has evolved to exclusively mean trans women and trans feminine MAAB people. Thus, tr*nny is not a word for drag queens to use, justify, or reclaim. The word belongs to the trans women. So, do us all a favor and stop.