“Won’t Someone Think of the Children!?”

Warning: This post is dripping with sarcasm. Like, high levels that might be toxic.

“Defendant Toone denied Ms. Joganik’s request and stated that he did not want Ms. Joganik to wear female clothing in the park because ‘there are children around the pool’”. Children around the pool, won’t someone ever think of the children? When it comes to queer and trans* people, this is something that is played like a broken record as a reason we should never be visibly queer. What if some poor, hapless, innocent child sees these queer people? What will the kid think? How will it affect them?

The answer to this question is easy, it won’t. Most children that these parents are trying to protect are small infants or toddlers, many of whom won’t even remember the incident 10 minutes later. The worst the parent will get is “why is that ‘man’ wearing a dress?” or something of that nature. The simple answer is, “because they are a woman, not a man”. Most kids will take this and be done. If they are at that age where they play the why game for hours, it’s pretty simple to turn it around. Well, why are you a boy/girl/whatever?

Of course, that means the parent would be accepting of queer and trans* individuals. Usually when this type of rhetoric is spouted, that is not the case. These are the type of people who do not believe we exist or are mentally ill and problematic. Of course, you generally don’t see these people saying everyone with a mental illness should stay inside and out of the range of children. You don’t see them advocating for people to take away their children from someone who might have at one point struggled with depression. Of course, being visibly queer and/or trans* is a lot less harder to hide than being mentally ill.

The fundamental flaw of the think of the kids argument resides in the idea that you are protecting children when you hide them from queer and trans* people. The idea that children will be mentally scarred or changed by seeing these people. However, the opposite is true. Hiding queer and trans* people from your child may be doing more damage than harm to them. If you truly want to show them to become mature, understanding, intelligent, and empathetic adults, you will expose them to all sorts of people since the world is diverse.  Once again though, that implies these people are of the type who even think that queer and trans* people are human beings as opposed to monsters.

Even in that monsters mindset though, why not expose your child to a valuable teaching lesson? If you are of that oh so wonderful camp, exposing a child to queer and trans* people at a young age gives you a valuable teaching tool! It allows you to further indoctrinate your child into your wrongful (and medically unsound) idea that queer and trans* people are just mentally damaged. I mean, all large medical establishments are just controlled by the liberal left anyway! Why not explain why two men are kissing to your child and how they are doomed to Hell because they are in love like Mommy and Daddy. I mean, how can that possibly go wrong?

Who cares if your child ends up believing they are queer and/or trans*? You can always explain it away by the fact they saw queer people at a young age! Wait, they didn’t? You must have fucked up at some point then! That’s right, the only person to blame at that point is yourself! Good job parental units! So, there is another reason queer and trans* people should be allowed to be visible around people, convenient scapegoats! Awesome, right? Since queer and/or trans* people are not real and are only a mental illness, now you can blame the queer person your infant saw at the grand old cognitive age of 2 as opposed to yourself, or god forbid, think of the idea that these things are naturally occurring! So when your child eventually tries to kill themselves for being queer and/or trans* (since queer and trans* people are four to eight times more likely than the general population to attempt suicide) you can blame that horrible trans* person you saw 15 years ago, or maybe that disgusting gay couple you saw holding hands when you child was 3. Such good parents!

In all seriousness (maybe), if the worst questions your child is asking are involving other people and why they are doing things, such as why two people are the same gender are holding hands, why someone is wearing a dress, etc. I want to know what type of genius program your child is in. Your child is more observant than most of the adult population and is asking simple questions, with simple answers. They aren’t asking why the sky is blue for the 90th time and refusing to accept your answer and keeping asking why until you snap and just yell because I said so a bunch of times. If you don’t want to answer your child’s questions about the world and human diversity, you are just a lazy parent. If you can answer why the sky is blue 90 times before snapping, you can answer your child about other people.


Author: Lucian Clark

Lucian Clark was born and raised in South New Jersey. Recently they published their first novel, a dark romance, titled Cemetery Drive. Their works have been featured across numerous platforms such as The Advocate and in anthologies like Werewolves Versus and Postcards From The Void. They've also been featured on several podcasts to talk about horror, activism, and their writing. With a passion for all things spooky, horrific, and queer, Lucian can often be found on social media talking about werewolves, rats, and My Chemical Romance. When not actively writing or reading, Lucian is also the curator of the queer horror website, GenderTerror, which features original art, stories, interview and more. They can also be found playing video games or with their pets (currently some rats and a cat). They are active in local and national social activism with a focus on LGBTQ+ rights and reproductive justice.

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